On the sea they’re euphemistically called intimate or clothing optional cruises and one even boldly named theirs, Swinger’s Cruise. On land they’re called, adult or erotic resorts. A few are for swingers but most of the organized adult resorts cater to men.

A small few cater to homosexuals, both male and female. One claims to be available for bi-sexuals obviously a play for those seeking a threesome. As much as they deny they are bordellos , what else would you call a place where depending on what package you buy, you are assigned one or more lady escorts, at least one of which is an all nighter. Some refer to this as the girlfriend experience. I call it a sex club. A getaway for wealthy hedonists.

Hey whatever turns them on. It’s a free world, though one his to wonder if the lady escorts ply their trade of their own free will.

So where are these places? All over. Just to give you an idea, I found advertisements from the Caribbean to Thailand, from Amsterdam to Rio de Janeiro–even Las Vegas. But I think we’ve all known that sex junkets and sex resorts for men were available for a long time. But what about women?

Well as you might expect, women, except lesbians, are once more discriminated against. It seems or at least I found no organized sex resorts where a woman can pay $1200 a night and be pampered by some well built well hung slab of meat to take care of their needs.

So women are left out?

Not necessarily. Woman who like to play are termed sexual tourists and they are pretty much on their own. Sources indicate that about 600,000 women come to the countries of the Caribbean Basin many in search of men’s attention and love. And some of the swarthy men from these countries count on women tourists, looking for the ‘Big Bamboo’ for at least a part of their income. In Jamaica, these women are termed, almost surely in fun, as ‘milk bottles’ who must be immediately filled up.

In Barbados, female sex tourists are said to be having “the Canadian secretary syndrome.” These third world gigolos prowl the airports, hotel lobbies, pools and beaches in hunting for ‘longtails’ and the and the going rate of $30 per hour or $150 a night for their canny services.

The following was in an article.

“Several years ago, two female sociologists from the USA questioned 240 women spending their vacations in Negril and at two similar resorts in the Dominican Republic. They found out that about one third of them had sexual contacts with local young men during their vacations. At that, sixty percent of them agreed that probably the young men made love to them just to get money. All the respondents said they did not pay for the sexual services that men provided during their vacations at resorts. But many of the women explained that they paid money for sex as they treated it as economic aid to the resort staff or even the local economy.

Some of the questioned women said they had started sex tourism by chance but loved to enjoy it regularly. Others say they love sex tourism not merely because of sex but rather because of the care and attention that local men give them. These women are even ready to pay for this type of temporary love.”

As a side note I should mention that not all the men are in it for money. A Swedish woman observed that a few swarthy foreigners were in a continuing education class she was taking. Upon closer examination, these men, all good looking and reasonable smart were brought to Sweden by their new fiancés, whom they met in their home country while their fiancée was on vacation.

So ladies is this something you would entertain?

Bi-Curious

Have you ever heard the term Bi-Curious? Do you know what it means?

I have come across this term three or four times in the last few weeks. I all cases it referred to women but I suppose men could be bi-curious as well.

I found the following discussion involving Bi-curiosity on the internet and decided to share it with you.

What is Bi-Curious?

A bi-curious person is a heterosexual man or woman who also finds the idea of same sex coupling intriguing.

True confessions, girls: Have you ever wondered what it might be like to kiss the lips of another woman? Ever woken from a lusty dream about a lady lover? Ever secretly mused about being, you know, intimate, with a girlfriend? If you whispered yes to any of these questions, you might just be bi-curious.

What does it mean?

Let’s pretend you’d never in your whole life eaten anything but Italian food: Ziti, lasagna, manicotti — all perfectly tasty stuff. Nobody would raise an eyebrow if you eventually started wondering about the flavors of Indian, Chinese or French cuisine, right? (seemed like a weak analogy to me)

So, would it be strange for a woman who’s been with only men her whole life to develop a curiosity about what else is out there. Would a female paramour have a whole new take on lovemaking? What’s it like to be in a romantic relationship with a woman? The bi-curious woman may choose to pursue her curiosities into the real world, or keep them tucked secretly into her own private fantasyland. It’s entirely up to her — and it’s nobody’s business but her own.

Are all straight women bi-curious?
No, not necessarily. Woman-to-woman friendships are famous for deep emotional intimacy and tender physical affection. Heart connections and handholds between two girlfriends don’t necessarily imply any sexual undercurrents whatsoever. It’s a time-tested recipe for a genuinely close, and purely platonic, bond.

Is bi-curiosity just a fleeting fancy, or does it mean that deep down I’m really bisexual, or even lesbian?

It could be a passing reverie, or it could be the beginning of some big changes. According to the Kinsey Scale, a widely accepted measure of sexual orientation, very few people are strictly heterosexual, or exclusively gay. In fact, most people’s sexual orientation falls somewhere along the spectrum in between the two absolutes, and it can change over time. Fantasies, dreams and curiosities may drift across gender lines, whether or not they are ever acted upon. In other words, most folks have at least some capacity for bisexuality at some point in their lives, be it in the imagination or in the bedroom. And it’s perfectly normal.

But wait, I’ve always assumed I was straight!

And so you may be. But sisters, Sappho was no fool. Women are beautiful creatures. (As a man, I can vouch for this) Who amongst the living can gaze upon the Venus de Milo and not be captivated by those callipygian curves? Add the sensuality and sensibility of a real live female, and you really can’t blame a girl if she becomes a little intrigued from time to time.

So, it’s all good?

Sexual orientation is not simply black and white, and it is not carved in stone. And bi-curiosity is just that: Curiosity. The musings of your erotic imagination are your own private business, and it’s up to you to pursue a lifestyle and lovestyle that suits you. These days it’s all about being true to yourself, being responsible and honest with others, and enjoying love, lust and life itself to the fullest.

One woman’s description of her Bi-Curiosity:

For me, it means that you have been straight in practice, but have had same-sex leanings that you have not explored. I think it is different to being bi-sexual. I once said to a bi-woman that I don’t feel that I can yet call myself bi-sexual because I have not had a same-sex sexual experience. She countered with the argument that the world is filled with virgins who know they are straight. She had a point, which made me think. I guess in the end, I’d rather “try it out” before I make up my mind.

So Ladies

Are any of you Bi-curious? Do any of you have Bi-sexual leanings? An experience? Do you dare to tell us?

I’m Curious

Whether bi-curious, bi-sexual or hopelessly heterosexual, I’d like hear your thoughts.

photo credit: carl.jones

Is it just me, or do the dirtiest things make you hot? The more taboo, the more I want to know about them. I’d have to say if I fell into any sexual category it would be The Voyeur. I don’t really want to participate in many things that I’m very interested in reading about. For example, degradation and humiliation of the deepest kind, a sub being used cruelly and treated like a mindless object. Why does it get me off? I have no idea. Would I really want to indulge in that kind of play? No way! I’m content to fantasize.

What’s your secret fantasy? The act you feel is so edgy you’d never want to admit it to anyone outside your own heart? You can post anonymously so don’t be ashamed to share. We all have secret desires and lusts!

eXcessica new releases

LORD MELCHIOR

By Varian Krylov

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Length: Short Story

Category: Menage, Historical

Heat Level: eXcess 4

Price: $2.99

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Long ago and far away, Lord Melchior ruled over his lands and his serfs with an iron hand. Taken from their homes at the cusp of adolescence and brought up in strict segregation, the boys and girls of his realm learned total obedience and rigid chastity. But when naïve Zaccheus and Rasha were chosen to serve their master in his castle, they soon discovered that one of Lord Melchior’s greatest pleasures was forcing his innocent young servants to violate the very laws he himself has imposed on them all their lives.

ACROSS THE THRESHOLD

By habu

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Length: Super-Novel

Category: Anthology

Heat Level: eXcess 3

Price: 5.99

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What gay male can ever forget his first full-blown sexual experience—a particularly memorable first time, given the conventions of society? The first time can be the culmination of long-held frustration, or completely casual and come as a complete surprise. It can be traumatic or sought; imprisoning or releasing, disappointing or far beyond the wildest dream. First times can be prearranged or ritualistic; spontaneous or unexpected by both parties. The first time could have been instigated by a predator, a new lover, or a savior, or even by the first timer himself. The situation and venue can be sordid or off-the-cuff convenient, or might involve silken sheets, candles, champagne, prolonged seduction and foreplay.

But for most men, the one thing it cannot be is forgotten.

This anthology provides a treasure trove of thirty-five short stories of separate, varied “first time” gay male experiences, from the stalked to long anticipated, from the romantic to the brutal, for the young or not so young. The one central theme of all of these stories, however, is the experiences depicted all result in the beginning of a new lifestyle, not the ending of a world.

A TWISTED BARD’S TALE

By Selena Kitt

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Length: Short Short

Category: Lesbian, Historical

Heat Level: eXcess 2

Price: 0.99

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Did you ever wonder what started the feud between the Capulets and the Montagues? Check out this naughty version of Romeo and Juliet - you’ll be surprised and delighted by this twisted Bard’s tale!

With the hurdles cleared, the new eXcessica anthology opens a submissions call to the public. We will be broadcasting the following details to the appropriate sites over the next few days.

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Have you ever written an intense story that was both too short to publish and too powerful to forget?

The focus of this call for submissions is “focus.” We are searching for concentrated power, condensed-yet-loaded plots, that leave the reader out of breath. No subject is off limits (save for the restrictions posted at www.eXcessica.com)—rather, the emphasis for this submissions call is on brief, compelling, and focused stories. We do not want plots that meander or pontificate, and we’re not looking for “stroke,” unless it’s superior because of ingenious handling and depth. We are looking for those works of art that prove the potency of the short.

As a guide, we’re targeting 1k-3k word lengths, but this is not a restriction. We challenge you to impress us, and in turn, we will nurture the selected gems, assuring they gain exposure in this compilation. We also plan to have an addendum of author details, where you can tell readers about yourself and advertise your other works. Another feature that will set this anthology apart will be an editor’s foreword on each story, which will act similarly to a positive review. If there are subtle techniques or hidden trivia in your story, we encourage you to give us the details, which may help us titillate the readers. By submitting a story, you agree to let us edit it (changes will be returned to the submitting email address for author approval). However, if your work is carefully edited prior to submission, it will earn a greater chance of being accepted.

You will retain any rights to your story in exchange for your permission to use it in this single project (which will consist of an electronic anthology sold through Fictionwise and eXcessica, and a possible hardcover release), and we hope you will join us in marketing the resultant product. A wise man once said: “It would be fantastic if literature could stand solely on its merits without hype but, alas, it all-too-rarely does.” Even though this anthology will be too “eXcessive” for mainstream appeal, teamwork will make an enormous difference on the compilation’s impact (and your exposure).

The proceeds from all sales will be donated to Teaching Matters (www.teachingmatters.org), with eXcessica retaining 10% for overhead and site maintenance (and our publishing partner, Fictionwise, has a set cost to publish). For questions, comments or submissions, contact Kev Henley at focus.anthology@eXcessica.com. Please put “submission” somewhere in the header when submitting a story (which should be attached in rich text format).

May you gain satisfaction and personal growth from your writing.

As this is my introductory blog post for eXcessica, I figured it might be prudent to start with why I began writing erotica at all.

A few years ago, I was looking for an adult chat room online, just something to pass the time. I found a few before clicking on one that was associated with a site called Literotica. I didn’t care for the chat room too much, but the site itself intrigued me, especially when I saw the wealth of posted stories.

Having been a writer since my teenage years, I’ve dabbled a little here and there in writing down some of my erotic fantasies. I never thought any of them would ever be read, of course. I wrote them mainly for my own titilation. But now, suddenly, I had discovered a place where such writing was accepted and encouraged. And the best part was that anyone could submit to the site.

So I created the name of slyc_willie for the site and began posting stories. Admittedly, they really weren’t more than tales of pure sexual fantasy and deviation at first. I thrilled at writing them, because I felt a sense of taboo-breaking. My writing had always been mainstream, and while I had only had a few short stories published, I longed to write something more risque that would be accepted. I guess I had always been something of a pervert.

The response, both on the Literotica forum, and through comments left on my stories and sent to me via email, was unexpectedly, and overwhelmingly, positive. Over the following couple of years, some of my stories were recognized as contest winners. I received touching responses from readers telling me how my stories had affected them, and not just sexually.

For the most part, all of my writing now is erotic. When Selena asked for authors to join her in eXcessica, I was hesitant at first. But eXcessica offers a chance at publication in a market which shies away from stories that involved highly detailed sexual acts. And that is what I write, for the most part. I write what I like to read, and what I like to read is detail.

My first novel for eXcessica, Pretty Baby, is due to be released soon. It is the story of Alyssa Green, told from her point of view, as she realizes a long-held fantasy of becoming a prostitute. The novel was originally released on Literotica as a six-part series, but the story, available through eXcessica is markedly different. It is cleaner, more concise, and while holding to the original descriptive detail, contains a bit more of a story.

There will be more coming from me in the future, that much I can promise. Some of it will be quite dark, but then, what do you expect from someone named Gabriel Daemon?

-Gabriel Daemon

So, you read or write erotica… But do you admit it? If your friends or family walked into the room and caught you with an erotica novel, would you tell them what you were reading, or would you subtly set it aside and pretend that it’s just another romance novel? If you write erotica, do you announce every time you’re published so that everyone knows and applauds, or do you smile secretly to yourself and remain silent?

Obviously I’m not one to talk. “secretme” on literotica.com and “Leighann Phoenix” here. If it isn’t obvious those are pen names, then I don’t know what would be. So the question really is: Is it necessary?

If you look at the recent advent and boom in the erotic lit market, then it’s pretty clear that a major portion of the population is reading the stuff, whether they’re in the closet about it or not. The point of contention, at least in American society, is that there may be something deviant about reading or writing about sex in any way that isn’t educational or for some ultimate purpose other than pleasure. It’s like sex is the best kept secret in town. We all do it, think about it, plan for it, but don’t like to admit it.

So do you think that your favorite authors would be thought less of, if they admitted to writing the stuff? Is the market becoming more acceptable as the internet makes the medium more accessible, and people are indulging?

On a related tangent: When you Google for erotic literature you will find numberless forums, discussion boards, and articles devoted to the topic of whether erotica is porn or literature. The discussion usually ends up tilting toward the subtle differences in style that would designate which category a particular story or author may fit into. Ultimately, however, I believe the issue is more intrinsic than that.

I once argued with someone that our society has it’s priorities in a seriously warped place. I had said that I would be happier to walk in on my kid watching porn, than I would be if I walked in on him/her watching a slasher flick. The person I was speaking with adopted an aghast expression and wanted to know how I could possibly justify that point of view. My answer was simple. If I do my job and raise my child with values and care, chances are that one day my child will have a family of his/her own. The only way to do that is by having sex. So one way or another my child is going to experience sex. At the very same time, if I do my job right, my child should never have to run for his/her life from a serial killer or witness a person being dismembered. The person I was talking to was surprised that I had a logical argument at all. I don’t think people really think about the topic. They let the popular media tell them what’s okay to watch/read and what isn’t.

So that brings me back to the original thought. Do you think that erotica writers and readers should hide it, while all other genre writers advertise? When you Google for information on pen names and choosing them you will find any number of sites making suggestions as to why a writer may need/choose to hide their identity. One of my favorites said: “Also, you need a separate pen name for any subject with a “taint” to it (such as erotica) if you want people to take your literary fiction or nonfiction seriously. Even Anne Rice uses a separate pen name for her erotica, though her more usual vampire novels always sit close to the border between horror and erotica.” So here’s a perfect example, horror good/erotica bad.

I suppose the debate will continue on the threads for as long as sex is a taboo. No telling how long that will be the case. I’m sure some of the argument stems from the population of writers, making a decent living off of erotica, who can’t claim the publication accomplishment without fear of condemnation by friends and family. I, for one, will continue to hide behind my pseudonym, only telling that select group of people I know who will smile with amusement, check out my writing, and say, “wow, uh, you wrote that?” But, like most people who write something they’re proud of, I’d love to get credit for it. Some day, when I’m too old to care what people think, and I can’t get fired for it, I swear I’m gonna put a banner in my front yard! “EROTIC fiction written here!”

Leighann Phoenix