My friend Monty is old and set in his ways, but that’s no excuse.
For many years now, my friend Monty has been my comrade and confidant, but ever since I started seeing Sweet, a wonderful transsexual woman, Monty’s usefulness in those roles has been on the decline. The more I’ve spoken to him about […]

Masks remain probably the most highly emotionally charged piece of fetish wear in sex. They’re even more emotionally loaded than the infamous collar in BDSM, because a collar at its most extreme merely means that you’re owned. It implies a change in status, from equal to slave. But the change in status implied by a […]

Bi-Curious
Have you ever heard the term Bi-Curious? Do you know what it means?
I have come across this term three or four times in the last few weeks. I all cases it referred to women but I suppose men could be bi-curious as well.
I found the following discussion involving Bi-curiosity on the internet and decided to […]

As a follow on from my last blog I thought I’d discuss Internet Dating again. Okay - I know I slated it last time. And with good reason!! It’s imperfect at the best of times, and downright crap at the worst. But for once I’m having fun with it  - mainly because I’ve had a […]

I have formulated a scientific hypothesis. Put on your thinking caps and don’t doze off, because after the academic stuff I’ll be talking about boobs.
One day I was watching Allan Gregg in Conversation on TVO. Psychiatrist and Medical Researcher Norman Doidge spoke on neural plasticity in relation to memory, stroke, Alzheimer’s, etc. and […]

An ongoing discussion within the erotic writing and reading community is to define the difference between erotic literature and pornographic literature and when does erotic writing become pornographic. There’s a similar discussion going on with romance writers and readers of when does romance become erotic. Since I don’t read or write straight romance, I won’t […]

I have a strong sense of smell. Sometimes I notice a smell that triggers something in the reptilian area of my brain, and I’ll remember an event from my childhood that I hadn’t thought about in years. For instance, recently smelling low tide near my home brought back a memory of the time I was […]

Why is internet dating such a trial?
It should be easy. After all, how difficult can it be to scroll through dozens of online profiles and decide which ones sound the least dysfunctional?
Maybe I was naïve when I first started playing the game. I (stupidly) thought that people (men) were being honest when they filled […]

My latest novella, Rose’s Garden, was written about a friend of mine. It isn’t a blow-by-blow account of her divorce by any means, and nor would she want anyone to think she had a hot and steamy affair with a younger man in the midst of the nuclear fallout that followed! But I did take […]

In talking with my mom and grandmother about my darling Sweet, it became clear to me that many people who are generally accepting of the transgendered community have little grasp on the terminology. That’s not a dig. Of course people aren’t going to be aware of definitions if they’re not a part of […]