Is it Autumn already? I had so many things I wanted to do this Summer.  Oh well. The leaves are already turning in the northern climes and the temperatures are moderating. It will work it’s way down here too…eventually. Then there is Halloween, my second favorite holiday after Christmas. As if I needed an excuse to […]

My friend Monty is old and set in his ways, but that’s no excuse.
For many years now, my friend Monty has been my comrade and confidant, but ever since I started seeing Sweet, a wonderful transsexual woman, Monty’s usefulness in those roles has been on the decline. The more I’ve spoken to him about […]

We have this bizarre custom here in Canada:  If somebody pushes you, shoves you, steps on your toes, YOU say sorry.  Whether it’s an accident or an act of deliberate malevolence on their part, you must say sorry when you are affronted.  That is part of Canada’s unspoken code of social conduct.
I do not abide […]

Shame is the great, undiscussed dimension in erotic literature. It’s the quality of shame that makes sex dirty, that separates medical illustrations from graphic porn, that’s the difference between the naked and the merely nude. And it’s not the shame we feel when we look at porn, but the shame we infer about the characters […]

Yes ladies, the famous, or is it infamous Hollywood Madame, Heidi Fleiss, has been threatening to open a male, ladies only, whorehouse, called The Stud Farm, in an existing brothel in Lincoln County, Nevada, about eighty miles north of Las Vegas, where prostitution is legal.
I’ll admit I am dubious about the viability of […]

As a follow on from my last blog I thought I’d discuss Internet Dating again. Okay - I know I slated it last time. And with good reason!! It’s imperfect at the best of times, and downright crap at the worst. But for once I’m having fun with it  - mainly because I’ve had a […]

I have formulated a scientific hypothesis. Put on your thinking caps and don’t doze off, because after the academic stuff I’ll be talking about boobs.
One day I was watching Allan Gregg in Conversation on TVO. Psychiatrist and Medical Researcher Norman Doidge spoke on neural plasticity in relation to memory, stroke, Alzheimer’s, etc. and […]

An ongoing discussion within the erotic writing and reading community is to define the difference between erotic literature and pornographic literature and when does erotic writing become pornographic. There’s a similar discussion going on with romance writers and readers of when does romance become erotic. Since I don’t read or write straight romance, I won’t […]

I have a strong sense of smell. Sometimes I notice a smell that triggers something in the reptilian area of my brain, and I’ll remember an event from my childhood that I hadn’t thought about in years. For instance, recently smelling low tide near my home brought back a memory of the time I was […]

Why is internet dating such a trial?
It should be easy. After all, how difficult can it be to scroll through dozens of online profiles and decide which ones sound the least dysfunctional?
Maybe I was naïve when I first started playing the game. I (stupidly) thought that people (men) were being honest when they filled […]