Shame is the great, undiscussed dimension in erotic literature. It’s the quality of shame that makes sex dirty, that separates medical illustrations from graphic porn, that’s the difference between the naked and the merely nude. And it’s not the shame we feel when we look at porn, but the shame we infer about the characters […]

As a follow on from my last blog I thought I’d discuss Internet Dating again. Okay - I know I slated it last time. And with good reason!! It’s imperfect at the best of times, and downright crap at the worst. But for once I’m having fun with it  - mainly because I’ve had a […]

An ongoing discussion within the erotic writing and reading community is to define the difference between erotic literature and pornographic literature and when does erotic writing become pornographic. There’s a similar discussion going on with romance writers and readers of when does romance become erotic. Since I don’t read or write straight romance, I won’t […]

Why is internet dating such a trial?
It should be easy. After all, how difficult can it be to scroll through dozens of online profiles and decide which ones sound the least dysfunctional?
Maybe I was naïve when I first started playing the game. I (stupidly) thought that people (men) were being honest when they filled […]

Have I ever mentioned how much I love the oldie-baldies?  I do.  I love those physically fit bald men in the 50-65 age group.  What can I say?  I’m a grave robber (the opposite of a cradle robber…?)
And what’s not to love? Bald is the new leather.  I love those shiny crowns, I love that […]

Regardless of the reason we begin to put words to “paper” — whether it’s to quiet the voices in our heads or to take the edge off pain — the moment we choose to share the fruits of our imaginations with an audience of any size, self-stimulation is added to the mix.  Even when we’re […]

I know this has been said before, but there is definitely something erotic about the summer months. It’s hard to pin point why exactly. Maybe it’s the heat of the sun that gets under our skin and burns away any inhibitions we might have had.
Whilst on my holiday, I had plenty of time to dwell […]

So I realized it’s my turn to do the blog today. What topic do I choose that I can make sound intelligent in a short amount of time? I began by scanning through the rolodex (the one in my brain) for ideas.
I looked at a few of the headings first to see what […]

I’ll sit right here and admit to hating every second of yesterdays almost two-hour test. It started the minute I had to eat a bowl of radioactive sickly sweet oatmeal. Did I mention this was in a cold, tiny trailer closed off from the hospital because of the materials I just swallowed? […]

My intention was to write something intelligent about…yes, you guessed it – writing!
But then I started musing about my love-life instead. It only took a few minutes. Love-life? Ha!
After all, who needs to cough up for expensive pyschoanalysis, when you can re-write the tale of your doomed relationship with the charmer who […]