» by dr_mabeuse February 11th, 2009 at 1:04 pm » Comments (1)

From an e-mail sent to an online lover... I want to teach you about denial. Denial is terribly important in sex, especially in the world of D/s and BDSM. In ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse January 28th, 2009 at 1:27 pm » Comments (2)

A quote from an interesting New York Times Magazine article on women's sexuality: http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=1&_r=1&em 'When she peers into the giant forest, Chivers told me, she considers the possibility that along with what ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse January 14th, 2009 at 12:33 pm » Comments (1)

I'm starting a new book. It's terribly easy and incredibly hard. You start with an idea: I want to do a book about a middle-aged woman who rediscovers adventure and romance ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse October 27th, 2008 at 11:10 am » Comments (2)

Is BDSM sexist? It certainly seems to be. A sexual fetish in which women are tied up, punished, degraded, called whores and sluts and made to do things they certainly ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse October 8th, 2008 at 12:46 pm » Comments (0)

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» by dr_mabeuse September 24th, 2008 at 11:32 am » Comments (0)

Masks remain probably the most highly emotionally charged piece of fetish wear in sex. They're even more emotionally loaded than the infamous collar in BDSM, because a collar at its ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse September 10th, 2008 at 10:37 am » Comments (0)

Shame is the great, undiscussed dimension in erotic literature. It's the quality of shame that makes sex dirty, that separates medical illustrations from graphic porn, that's the difference between the ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse September 8th, 2008 at 5:53 pm » Comments (0)

My new book came out Monday: The Good Student. Finally, after over a year, it's finally available. It's a good book too, the best thing I've ever done. Handsome cover, ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse August 13th, 2008 at 2:27 pm » Comments (0)

I write a lot of BDSM, also known as D/s, Dominance and submission. I'm wary of referring to it as D/s (though I do for convenience's sake), because that can ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse July 30th, 2008 at 10:57 am » Comments (1)

I was talking about erotic heat in porn stories, about what makes a hot story hot and what makes it arousing to read. Is it just the actual explicitness? The ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse April 27th, 2008 at 12:11 am » Comments (10)

What makes sex writing hot? What gives it its ability to not just stimulate and titillate, but to make us sweat, to push us to the point where it really ...more »

» by dr_mabeuse April 19th, 2008 at 12:42 pm » Comments (16)

In the dictionaries, pornography and erotica are similarly defined: "creative activity…of no literary or artistic value other than to stimulate sexual desire." This definition has to be changed. For me, ...more »